How to begin an online dating?

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How to begin an online dating?

You've chosen a photo and have filled in the questionnaire. You've managed to write a line about yourself and have received many new letters from mysterious strangers. And most importantly, you've defined for yourself a purpose, which only needs realizing. Somewhere in distant and mysterious Asia, that unique place, is someone ready to follow you through fire and water. In this publication we'll tell to you how to begin such an acquaintance.

Two possibilities
All of us are different. We have different views and characters. Thanks to the Internet we have an opportunity, sitting down in a literal sense, to get acquainted with women from all corners of the planet. One person will search actively and persistently, showing an enviable determination, and initiative. Another, on the other hand, simply waits for good luck to come. Whether you're active or passive in your search, we will consider both possibilities.

Passive grooms
We do not necessarily condone this type of acquaintance, but recognise you have chosen it, so listen to our recommendations and familiarise yourselves with some tantalising details.

Many become passive competitors because almost at once after registration, they receive large numbers of letters. This especially concerns men who look good in a photo, and are very effective at filling in the questionnaire.

Experienced users remark: As soon as you place a photo in your profile, the letters start coming in a never-ending stream, but it won't always be that way. The fact is that on the majority of dating and relationship sites in the Internet, all new users are marked by a certain pictogramme. So failure to notice you is simply impossible. As soon as you become more familiar, usually by some sort of ranking system, and pass from being a beginner to one of the more experienced users, interest will decrease, and the quantity of letters will fall sharply.

On any dating or relationship site, all new visitors are welcomed. Therefore it's in the interests of a site to show to potential clients that the quantity of users grows constantly. Frequently, the pictogramme of a beginner defines those who regularly update the information on their profile and add photos. So it is an advantage to be an active user: update your information and look through the profiles of other people.

"Jimmy and I have met already in my city, after just a month, but I didn't conceal anything, and told him that I liked very much sending messages to many newcomers, and teasing them. It's the truth, and Jimmy got put on my "list". But he turned out to be so charming and persistent, that I stopped my teasing. One month ago I got acquainted with Jimmy's parents and his friends, and I am now preparing papers for leaving Asia. In January we will be married." It is a fragment from a letter by Anechka Klikunova from the small city of Zelenograd near Moscow.

We offer you some unique ideas for the preparation and design of your profile and personal information. You can download not just your coloured photos as other people do, but black-and-white ones as well. In these pictures, skin blemishes are imperceptible. The colour of your hair, or eyes, remains a riddle too. A little eccentric perhaps, but quite acceptable for an artistic person.

Now you can competently fill in the questionnaire and write a story about yourself.

Automatic search systems.
The primary significance of searches conducted automatically is born by answers to questions in the questionnaire. Your answers in the questionnaire will be very important in the search process.
They define the basic type of people who will write to you. Here are a couple of quick comments on the procedure of selection of partners.
First, you should be the registered user. Second, you should specify the criteria on which a search for a partner is carried out in the search parameters. For example, specifying only those who've placed a photo of themselves.

Active grooms
Those of you who are active grooms, have a definite purpose - to find a wife from Asia, and you have already defined for yourselves the qualities you would like to see in a potential partner.
Results will come, if you begin your search actively, specifying the criteria which is important for you. Here are some reasons why it is better to be active:
- You are a serious person, and have serious considerations. Your wishes in the choice of a potential partner are subjective and expansive, with as much as possible weighed carefully, and corresponding to your own perspective of human values. It is reasonably likely that your criteria is limited to height, weight and a profession or trade. An approximation could be something like: "I would like to get acquainted with a Asian woman of approximately thirty-years of age, who is kind and sympathetic, lonely, with a sense of humour and the ability to cook. She should be no taller than 170 centimetres, of average complexion, and of eye and hair colour in harmony with the temperament of a person of integrity". And when reading stories about others, you choose people according to your latent emotions, requirements, desires, plans and hopes. So maybe it is better not to entrust such a serious process to someone else , especially to the computer?
- Women are less active concerning relationships in the Internet, than men. So it is quite normal that the man makes the first move.
- Don't be afraid of refusal. Yes, they are waiting for you, but most likely, those who refuse you are the wrong people for you anyway.
- Many women are only registered on a site, and do not pay for additional services. They are registered for free, but cannot act as initiators of any relations. The problem is, you don't know about it. The conclusion is obvious - be active, and the problem will disappear. Read some of our recommendations which will help you work more actively with a search system.
- Be patient and calm, and get ready to read a considerable quantity of information and stories about women.
- Study the users information constantly, as new people appear on a daily basis.
- Try to examine the information more carefully, as that stunning photo may not reflect the real situation. A photo is of some help, but no more than that.
- If you are interested in someone, do not postpone starting your correspondence, or wait too long. It is quite possible that her registration term may end tomorrow. Write a letter, and leave your details. We remind you, that on some sites the data of users, whose registrations have been expired for a long time, are not deleted, and they have no possibility of answering your messages.

Our help.
It's not necessary to trust profile information completely. Remember your own profile. You would hardly say that you are already completely bald, choosing instead to write that you are thinning a little on top, and already had one or two extra kgs. "Let our men forgive us, but can we resist, when writing the story or choosing a picture, not changing the real information to our advantage just a little? When I first filled in the questionnaire, I reduced my weight by three kgs, made myself a little taller, and wrote that I do not smoke, although for a long time I smoked occasionally. Without any doubt I specified my own material independence, that I didn't put on weight, and added that I am fond of all sorts of arts." It is a fragment from Marina Shipova's letter from Moscow that characterises some aspects of female logic in the best possible way.
- Don't forget to remind her about yourself. If you answer a letter, specify in detail who you are and where you're from, as the addressee who writes to you will not always guess. Be patient. Don't be irritated if you don't receive an answer to any letters. There can be many reasons, about which you simply don't know.

Many men like working with search systems established on dating and relationship sites, especially if they are of a technical, or particular, mentality and character.
You will find many interesting and not so interesting variations and choices. But do not entertain outrageous ideas which could reduce considerably your chances of a successful acquaintance. For example, don't put in the search parameters that a woman you are searching for should be: a blue-eyed blonde, of 192 centimetres or taller, who weighs no more than 40 kg with small feet and a masters diploma of philosophy, who drinks every day, follows scientology, lives in a country house near Khabarovsk, and has two children of preschool age.

Here's a further list of search parameters and our comments.
- Users of sites are almost always arranged into groups according to their age. Remember the fragment from Marina Shipova's letter when using this parameter in the search criteria.
- Searches based on astrological signs, are more characteristic of fans of esoteric literature and gutter press. Basically, the sign of the Zodiac is defined automatically at registration, based on the date of birth which you specify.
- Weight and size. The descriptions of these vary greatly on dating and relationship sites. Choose neutral, or type "average build" or "proportional", and that assumes a wide enough spectrum of the form of a figure. A woman sees herself as she wants, instead of what others might see.
- Education. We remind you, in your search for a wife from Asia, that the educational system differs from one on the American continent or in Western European countries. Our information is: 98 % of percent of Asian women receive a secondary education. Many women combine that with the pursuit of professional skills. In Asia it's called a professional college or technical school. The next step is Institutes and Universities, which are closer in similarity to western examples. But such terms as Bachelor, or Master have started to appear more recently. And here, names of scientific degree or an academic status are equivalent to world standards. So one can safely enter as a parameter "A doctor of medical sciences" or "A doctor of philosophy".
- A search for a particular eye colour has an approximately 50/50 chance of being successful.
- A hair colour search, in our opinion, is simply nonsense. The modern woman, without a shadow of a doubt, will answer that question with a question of her own: "And what colour do you want?"
- A rather productive search is interests and hobbies. You will find a partner easily, from a fan of Chinese cuisine, to a stamp collector, or someone engaged in fishing in the Arctic ocean.
- If a particular city in Asia is important to you when searching for a potential partner, then enter this parameter.
- To put a profession in a search parameter is risky enough, that's why this parameter is absent on many sites. There are many other ways to describe your work, so when filling in details in your profile, a specific trade or job option is often missing.
- Height. Don't count on genuine information in this parameter. Allow for an additional 2-3 centimetres.
- Religion - a potentially difficult search parameter. Many simply don't answer. Owing to some religions even being excluded from the list, for example Baptists or the Adventists, many of them will get into the results anyway.
- Searching for an indication if a woman smokes or not, is similar to searching for a hair colour. When filling in the profile questionnaire, the choice of answers is limited to three variants: yes, no, and sometimes. Only the woman knows if the answer is true or not.
- Weight, the same as height.
- The willingness to move is a very important parameter for you. Looking forward, it is important to say that in our experience there was no example of a fracture in relationships with a woman from Asia because of her unwillingness to move.

Automatic search.
On practically every site there is automatic pairing selection. It works as follows: you are defined with selection criteria, with which you specify and detail the importance of each of the criteria. The search program also performs for you other work as well. Normally entered search parameters are saved and can be edited according to your wishes. Emails you receive are easy to read, and not tiring to deal with. And there are pleasant surprises when the computer gives you the chance to get acquainted with an interesting person whose data you have not noticed, or you have passed by with your own search. "I never considered myself as an experienced computer user, and especially using the Internet. But my daughter, this small computer wizard as my friends called her, despite being eleven years old, communicated in a network while my parental patience lasted. She organised an email address for me, registered me at once on several dating and relationship sites, and regularly used the autosearch functions, searching for a husband for me, and a daddy for herself. But I learnt about it much later when Irishka put the fact in front of me. And this fact was called Andy Williams from the small American city of Nashville." The wedding of Andy and Xenia Mironova from Volgograd took place six months ago, and it happened because of her daughter Irishka's clever computer skills and her use of "autosearch".

Interactive mode
It's our opinion that interactive dialogue is entertaining, but a somewhat illogical way to find a nominee for a serious relationship. It's a kind of instant acquaintance, and where it will take you, is difficult to predict.
How do you learn who is in interactive mode? The possibility exists on practically every dating and relationship site. All interactive users are designated by a flickering inscription of some sort. It is very convenient, especially when you are the active user. In an interactive mode you have the possibility of sending an email at once, and instantly knowing if the user opened it or not. There is a service of instant messages which allows you to draw attention to yourself.

Helpful information
If you are attentive, you can, potentially, find a lot of interesting functions which tell much about the interactive life of a user who is interesting to you. For example:
- Near the data of a user there is often an underlined percentage relating to how many electronic letters she answers.
- The date of the last interactive dialogue, and the date of the last visit by the user on a site.
- You have the possibility of getting information about who has become interested in you, and when.

In conclusion
In any event, everyone communicating in the Internet has an equal possibility, with others, for self-expression. Remember it. Irrespective of status, health, nationality, education and so on, everyone can begin a virtual dialogue with an identical starting point, according to equal rules, and identical to all. The measure of your influence on those you communicate with depend only your social skills and ability to write competently, if you are determined enough, and possess a certain gift of literary influence and convincing people. Further to this, all the events will go in the direction that you choose.
Expand a circle of questions, topics, ideas, and motives. After all the Internet gives you a unique opportunity to assemble a great deal of preliminary information before real dialogue begins. Find areas of common interests, things and ideas. Ask about everything that it is necessary for you to know, and this will be the best preparation for a real "tomorrow".