How to protect yourself from scammers in Internet?

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How to protect yourself from scammers in Internet?

Acquaintance in the Internet is always a mystery. There are pluses and minuses. The world wide web is a place where nobody will suggest who you deal with, or be careful of. But it is not necessary to worry very much, as we will tell you how to recognize dishonest men and women. You will learn how to expose them, and not be acquainted with them. You will learn who are the "players", as we will analyse typical cases of swindle and a deceit at acquaintance in the Internet.

As a public environment, the Internet is a fine place for communication of many people. We do not know the majority of them. And, having got acquainted with several decent people, we forget that the next one can appear to be a swindler. The chance of meeting trouble is no more than hundred to one, but trouble does not come once. So let's be on the alert, let's learn, why the Internet involves antisocial types:
- Anonymity. It involves dirty minded men and women. Some "dirty" users of the Internet for pleasure recognise that until they are exposed, they feel completely safe and free to behave with impunity for antisocial behaviour.
- On relationship sites, there is no system of identification of the person. It is not difficult to present yourself as whoever you want. If you have some acting abilities, then you are not a woman any more, but a man, you are not fifty, but eighteen, or you are not in prison, but free.
- We forget about being careful. And can it be any other way? Monitor blinking, fascinating electronic letters, effective photos of potential partners, and you have thawed, immersed in the virtual world of the images created by you.

"I got into trouble five times, may be six, I do not remember precisely, but it was before I became wiser and more cautious. I was registered on a relationship site. I filled in the questionnaire. I loaded photos and composed a story about myself. And the next evening, I had already reaped a rich crop from letters of potential pretenders to my heart. In a couple of days, one of them had interested me very much. Her appearance was super, personal data was just in my taste, not many bad habits, and the letters were so competent, polite and correct. And I took the bait instead of just thinking and drawing reasonable conclusions. Enlightenment came unexpectedly, and the main thing is that it happened in time: my friend and I received identical letters! We got letters from the same fine stranger in Moscow, and texts of letters were copied from a manual with instructions on conducting electronic correspondence with grooms from the USA and Canada. She had ideal English, and I even did not think about it at all. Yours faithfully, Robert D'Milligan". You will never buy life experience for any money, and we are sincerely thankful to the authors of the letters for permission to publish their materials on our site.

Our Recommendation
Remember about danger, but do not exaggerate it, otherwise you will not trust each other, and it will be noticeable in your electronic letters. Use safety measures, but do not forget, that the majority of people who surround us are quite normal, decent people.

Scammers and Adventurers. The Basic Types and Kinds of Deceit.

The best defence is attack, but without knowledge of the enemy's tactics, an attack can be inefficient. Our recommendation, which is good for all occasions, is to be attentive and cautious, picking up on trifles and discrepancies, compare the given questionnaires to the information, which you receive as a result of correspondence, and analyse any suspicious moments.

Married women.
One of the greatest problems in the Internet is an acquaintance with married people. In the word "married", we mean those people who are in a legal binding marriage and are not going to divorce. The number of men in this category considerably surpasses the number of women statistically. The quantity of Asian women who are in a legal marriage and registered on relationship sites is insignificant, and in most cases, it is sites of an obviously sexual character. We will consider the most typical situations:
- The woman openly states that she has a family. It is necessary to give her acknowledgement for honesty and frankness. Quite possibly, she is simply searching for extramarital affairs, as communication with a man from the USA or Western Europe is comfortable and safe for a Asian woman with financial and personal motives. You will seldom meet this type of woman from Asia on well-known, large, relationship sites. But this is quite a normal phenomenon on sites of more doubtful reputation. You are less likely to meet a woman who is in a civil marriage. People of such type do not hide their extramarital affairs from their spouse. Both partners conduct a rather free way of life. These women rarely frequent large sites as there are special sites for such type of acquaintances.
- Women who lie about their marital status. This category of women is dangerous to you. The initial lie generates a further lie that creates moral problems.
- Women who incorrectly write their status, misleading you. Such women use dialogue on relationship sites as some kind of self psychotherapy. And women of this type only think that they have divorced. Actually, and most likely, they leave their spouse only while he is working, on a business trip or, most often, after a quarrel. Such acquaintances are not for you. A woman in the course of a divorce, or immediately after it, is mentally unstable, and she will misinterpret you, your plans and the possibilities. Her mentality is easily vulnerable, and in most cases, broken. The symptoms of the behaviour of a woman who is in an unstable family situation, and a mentally unbalanced person, is practically identical. In other words, she does not see things objectively, and frequently insists that her mental health is normal. Do not trust such assurances. This risk is not for you, and it is very easy to recognise women of this type, having paid particular attention to the following moments in correspondence:
- The desire for special attention from you to her, demanding you listen only to her, about her psychological and personal problems.
- Frequent repetitions in texts, nervousness, and disorder in the information she gives about herself.
- The absolute disorderly nature of her correspondence. Such women are inclined to extremes. The questionnaire can be practically empty or, more often, an excessive description of her advantages and merits.
You have a sensation that "you are not listened to" - this is an alarm bell for you. Analyse all information, study the questionnaire once again and the story of your correspondence about herself. In most cases you will understand there is an very unhealthy person in front of you.

If the woman represents herself as a man. More often than not, teenagers use a similar tactic. Most likely, it is one of the forms of self-affirmation of youth. Their quantity is insignificant, however such dialogue does not bring any pleasure, and causes unnecessary irritation and anger. Try to remain quiet if you have taken the bait from such jokers. Do you have doubts and wish to learn the truth? Make an appointment for a phone conversation. It is the fastest way. It is much more productive than the analysis of questionnaires, stories of women about themselves and correspondence. Who exactly is behind it, you will never learn, because deceivers of such types never agree to a phone conversation and even less to a personal meeting, and they will disappear from your field of vision.

Discrepancy of age
The woman who has taken a couple of years off her age can hardly be called a speculator. We speak about those who reduce their age by twenty years or more, placing old photos on a site and giving false data in the story about themselves. Similar situations happen frequently enough. As a matter of fact, the lie will be shown at once, in the first minutes of personal meeting, but is it worth spending time on them. It is simple to recognise such women. Pay attention to small details. Study a picture. The clothes on your new acquaintance can tell much about the era of fashion, and her haircut will confirm your guesses. Remember about yourself, and also the fashion and style of, for example, the 1980's. Open the family album and your school photos. Look through old fashion magazines, become a Sherlock Holmes for a while. By the clothing and hairstyle of a woman, you can recognise the time the photo was taken within an accuracy of five-ten years. If you still have a doubt or two, ask her to send a photo of recent events and compare them.
For example: "Hello. Can you send me photos from your trip with your son to Baikal? I've never been there".

"I cannot call myself an inexperienced user, as I have communicated in a network for three years so far, and on a relationship site I was registered for the first time two and a half years ago. After registration my virtual, and then real dialogue with different women began to grow, like a snowball. I will say briefly, that the overwhelming desire for a personal meeting started to prevail over caution and common sense. Problems and adventures arose from this loss of reason, bringing frequent disappointments as well. Being engaged in an active search of women interesting to me, I once came upon a site of acquaintances actively propagandising brides from Asia. How many beautiful women were there! And I could not resist. Correspondence started not just with one woman. At least ten pretenders appeared on my horizon. The most unusual, mysterious, interesting, beautiful and clever appeared to be 25 year old Larissa Pudkova from Saratov, a rather large city located on the coast of the great Asian river Volga in the centre of Asia. In two months of electronic correspondence, I knew everything about her, or so it seemed to me. But Larissa was not Larissa at all. All her photos, correspondence and stories were sent by her senior girlfriend and fellow worker, Svetlana Smirnova. She was a clever, interesting, but for a long time already, lonely woman at a solid age. I did not feel insulted by her, and thanks to this story, I've gained experience. I learnt things, forgotten by me for a long time, such as care, objectivity, and sensible analysis of the information. I ceased to care about little things that should have alarmed me, and became rather suspicious and serious. But, the main thing is that I nevertheless got acquainted with "Larissa", and our relationship has been quite successful". You can draw your own conclusions about this letter from John Sullivan from Ohio, and we are sincerely thankful to John for his permission to publish this fragment from his letter on our site.

Those who need your money.
Criminal networks of swindlers are a big topic of conversation. Leading special services organisations around the world are engaged in their suppression, and we can give only general recommendations within our limited sphere of competence. So, always remember. Criminals are only interested in your money. There is only one conclusion: the longer you conduct electronic correspondence, and the longer you refuse a personal meeting, the smaller the interest you represent for the criminal. Pay attention to little things in conversations with your potential partner. Frequent discussion of financial questions gives food for thought. It is worth noting what your new acquaintance is actually interested in, and in no way, or in any situation, give anybody the number of your bank accounts, or insurance and credit card details. How, you might ask, does the false fiancee from Asia take money from rich grooms? The scheme is as old and simple as the world. On a relationship site, a photo of an very attractive woman or girl with a practically faultless questionnaire is placed. An acquaintance is made. Later, it emerges she has problems. Usually it starts with little things. For example: it is necessary for her to pay for phone bills, the Internet, and photos. In the process of dialogue and acquaintance, her relatives "unexpectedly" fall ill. Often there is a necessity for expensive medical aid and treatment for your "unusually lovely and charming" acquaintance. The direction of a stream of financial resources from the well-funded groom is defined exclusively by the imagination of the fine stranger. At the final stage of extortion, sums of money for the purchase of a ticket, or payment of a tourist trip on a meeting with you are sent. In the overwhelming majority of cases, the remittance is carried out on an absolutely voluntary basis, and the sums vary from hundreds to thousands of dollars. Be sensible. Clever analysis of relations, and reasonable expenditure of financial resources, will help you to avoid including similar pages in your own biography.

Adventurers or about those who have a good time, communicating and exchanging electronic letters
Adventurers are registered on a site of acquaintances only for entertainment. To create serious, long term relationships with such people is impossible. They put in their data, create visibility, and actively search for a partner for themselves, exchanging letters and photos with you. They create the illusion of being genuinely interested in creating and developing a relationship when they actually just want to have a good time, communicating and exchanging electronic letters. Correspondence with such people can be carried out over a long period of time. Letters from such people will differ with superficial answers to the questions put by you, will contain excessive bravado, unilateral irony, pompous fun and constant humour. The entertainment seeker will delay in every possible way the possibility of telephone conversations, and even less the probability of a personal meeting. It is possible to recognise such "masters of words" only empirically or by the prospect of a personal meeting. As soon as you create such conditions, people of this type fade into the background, and try to leave the game with you, going in search of a new "victim".